I am a perfectionist and therefore, when it comes to decluttering, I feel like every area of my house should be perfectly organized with no excess possessions. While unpacking boxes in my new flat, I sometimes thought “I don’t use this, maybe I should get rid of it” or “I have too many books, they’re really overwhelming on my shelves”. These excesses caused me stress and disappointment. I wanted everything to be perfect, but couldn’t necessarily create this perfection immediately (unneeded things need a new home, books need to be read…).
The whole point of decluttering is to live in a way that our possessions don’t get in our way. We declutter to make more space, to create comfort and ease, to reduce cleaning, to clear our minds. Therefore, possessions should never become obsessions – whether this means obsessing about owing too much or obsessing about decluttering. Possessions should fit in comfortably with our lifestyle – there to serve and please us, but not to burden us.
I realised that I may never reach ‘possession perfection’. So if I am to live in harmony with my material things, I need to accept that I can’t have control over everything. I need to accept imperfection – yes, I have too many books; yes, I have clothes I don’t wear; yes, I have cosmetic products I don’t use. But if I can’t deal with this today and if it isn’t having a negative impact on my daily life, I need to shrug it off and get on with my life. Now that I have decluttered enough to be comfortable in my home, it’s time to get on with life! The excess that remains will fall away as life takes its course.